19 hours ago
Saturday, February 14, 2009
I'm throwing my angry voice into the throng of about a million others on this Octomom issue. I can't help it. This woman's irresponsible behavior is eating me alive. I know I shouldn't allow the actions of a person I don't even know on the other side of the country, in fact, bother me as much as it does. But for some reason the second I heard that this woman had IVF after already having six biological children, something twisted inside of my heart. I haven't felt The Rage in a long time. It's like an old friend returning after a long absence.
First of all, I have no objections to IVF for people who are unable to have children without it. Fertility treatments are marvels of scientific progress and have improved the quality of life for countless people, giving them the chance to fulfill the dream of having and raising a family. I would never begrudge someone that joy, and also that agony. Multiple births are an unpleasant side effect of such treatments. While not ideal, for the children or the parents, they are certainly interesting. I watch Jon get berated by Kate while raising their litter of beautiful children. It doesn't even really bother me that much that they pimp their family out on national TV like it seems to bother a lot of other people on the internet. To each his own.
But this Nadya woman? I hate her fucking guts. What the fuck are you doing Nadya? You have 6 children already. Three of those children have disabilities and you receive government assistance to care for them. You also receive fucking food stamps, because apparently you are using the money you should be spending on food, to make even more babies you can't afford to take care of. These kids don't have a father and now it appears they are being disowned by their grandparents because of their mother's irresponsible and irrational behavior. Poor things. Honestly, if I ruled the world, and I really should, then these precious babies would be removed from this selfish bitch's custody and given to people who are infertile, long for a baby, but can't afford fertility and IVF treatments.
Now I hear she's begging for donations on line to take care of all these kids she's so selfishly brought into the world as a cure for her own admitted loneliness. You don't have kids to hang out with and fix your boo-boos, Nadya. Now you have 14 kids who are all going to need you desperately for emotional and financial support. I give you a year or two. If you're not begging for your own death, I'm pretty sure you'll be begging to have your "loneliness" back. I wouldn't donate a single penny to her. I would throw my cash into a firepit before I'd give it to her. And you might say, "But Gwen, what about the babies? It's not their fault." I have two answers to that.
First, how do I know she wouldn't just take all the money she got from donations and spend it on herself? What if she takes the donations and uses them to do another round of fertility treatments? She got a settlement of some $100,000 and that's what she spent it on. No, she didn't use it wisely as in, say, buying food for her children's hungry mouths or in a savings account for college tuition. Instead she spent it on having even more kids when she can't afford to take care of the kids she already had. Second, there are a lot of things I want for my daughter but I can't afford to give her right now. Karate lessons, piano lessons, a trip to Disney World. Hell, she has a bunch of cavities that I'm saving money to fix because my dental insurance only covers part of it. So I have to save a thousand dollars to fix my daughters teeth. Why doesn't anyone send me money for that? What if I set up a website and asked for donations to get my daughter's teeth fixed? Does Nadya have more of a right to do that just because she decided to have 14 children and I only accidentally had one?
I realize that procreation is a touchy subject. I, personally, feel there should be a limit to the number of kids people should be allowed to bring into this world. There are already WAY too many people on this planet. Sometimes I can't even breathe when I think about it. I'll be sitting in my car and I'll look around and I'll see swarms of people in cars, walking, sitting on benches, walking into stores where there are still more people breathing air, taking up space. It makes me want to ram my car into a telephone pole. In any case, I certainly believe that the number of kids we should be allowed to have should be limited to the number of kids we can financially and emotionally support either alone or with a partner. In other words, if you want to have 20 kids, then fine. Just don't expect any of my hard-earned tax money to have to go toward feeding your progeny. That's not fair.
The problem with this country is that people are so hell bent on defining and protecting rights and at the same time systematically removing responsibility. Nobody wants to take responsibility for their own actions. If I get pregnant accidentally and have a baby then yes it is my right to do that. But along with that right comes the responsibility to take care of that little one into adulthood. If I decide to have a baby without a father or other partner, then I am taking sole responsibility for the physical and emotional health of that child. I'm so fucking sick of people whining about their rights but not living up to their responsibilities. And just because you can do something doesn't mean that you should.
I hear this Nadya bitch has a publicist and PR agent. Fuck her. She is getting death threats. And while I think that's a bit overboard - I obviously don't wish her dead - I laughed a little bit when I heard that. Does that make me an awful person? I'm surprisingly OK with that. I'm sure she's got some book/movie deal in the works. Somebody would have to threaten me with death in order for me to watch any movie or read any book that featured this fucking bitch or her litter. I am torn because I know that those children deserve to have everything they need. But there is something inside me that won't let me lift a finger to help this woman. I think the doctor that implanted those 8 embryos needs to start shelling out some hard cash to support those babies. God damn, those kids deserve better than what they've got.
It feels good to get all of this off my chest. It's been like a storm brewing inside of me for weeks now. At the end of the day I do realize that the existence of this woman doesn't effect me or my life in any meaningful way. In some ways I really do think that Nadya is slightly insane. I also think that she will live to regret her actions. I mean, can you imagine changing all those shitty diapers every day? I just picture her knee deep in that gross yellow infant poo and I laugh and laugh and laugh. Good luck, Nadya. Those kids deserve better than you, but you're all they've got. Step up to the plate and take responsibility for your actions. And get the fuck off of my television screen. If I never see you and your collagen filled lips again it will be too soon.
at 8:44 PM